In the playwright Andre’s Mother, author Terrrence McNally suggest a theme loss, acceptance, and closure. This drama introduces the effect that Andre’s death has on his family and friends as they gather in Central Park for a private memorial. The mourners, Cal (Andre’s lover), Andre’s mom, Penny (Cal’s sister), and Arthur (Cal’s dad) each release a white balloon symbolizing letting go of Andre. Before “letting the soul ascend to heaven” each character expresses their feelings and memories of Andre; everyone except for Andre’s mother who expressed her feelings in silence.In Cal’s speech to Andre’s mother, the audience is able to envision Andre and his mother’s unstable relationship. He explains, “I wonder if he would have ever told you.
When he was sick, if I asked him once I asked him a thousand times. Tell her! She’s your mother. She won’t mind. But he was afraid of hurting you and of your disapproval I don’t know which was worse. ” He understood his mother was critical of a gay alternative lifestyle. Andre feared disclosing to his mother of his homosexuality.
Consequently, Andre never disclosed to his mother that he was homosexual.Upon his death is when his mother discovered that he was gay. Cal, Andre’s partner enjoyed a very open and intimate relationship with Andre.
Cal absolutely adored Andre. Andre and Cal frequently discussed Andre’s fear of disclosing to his mother that he was homosexual due to her narrow-minded views. Therefore, Andre went to his death without being able to tell his mother that he was gay.
On the other hand, Cal’s parents and sister openly accepted Cal and Andre’s gay relationship and embraced them with love.Cal’s sister Penny enjoyed a very close friendship with Andre as she mentioned during the memorial she said, “Andre loved my sense of humor. Listen you can hear him laughing. So long you glorious wonderful… man. ” Moreover, Cal’s father Arthur explains his encounter with Andre. He says, “In my clumsy way what I’m trying to say is how much I liked Andre and how much he helped me to know my own boy.
” It was apparent that Cal’s family embraced Andre with their love. Andre’s dilemma was the fear of his mother’s disapproval that if he would ave disclosed to her he was gay. Although Cal hoped that one day Andre would disclose to his mother that he was gay and that he was in a serious relationship, this did not happen and Andre went to his death without Andre telling his mother of his true self. There is not much to be said of Andre’s silent suffering for the AIDS virus except that he loved his family and Cal until his final days.
If Andre would have been able to disclose to his mother the real him, he would have died more peacefully.During the memorial when Cal, Arthur, Penny, and Andre’s mother released the white balloons, each person expressed themselves in different emotional ways. Andre’s mother remained silent and emotionless appearing in deep thought and contemplation. She did not verbalize any responses to any of them. Andre’s mother face showed an impression of guilt and remorse. When Andre’s mother released the white balloon it almost looked like she was thinking “I wish I would have allowed Andre to tell me that he was gay and in a relationship with Cal and accepted him and loved him the way he truly was.